The noise in my head...
It has been 3 months since I turned 25 and my parents already think this to be the end. And why? Just because I’m still single
How do I explain to them that I’m not against getting married…its just that I cant bring myself to getting married to just about anyone?!
I have given this a genuine attempt. And every time it doesn’t go well, my parents remind me again that ‘you have to compromise’
Yes…I know I have to. But how much? That’s the question that I still haven’t found an answer to.
I have considered guys who have been not so good looking and so unimpressive yet only coz they score well on the rest of the check-list. I have even met guys who have been slacking in terms of educational background. Then there have been some that have literally made me think is this a plot to establish silence in my life since I wouldn’t have much to talk to this guy if I married him.
And when you finally come across a guy who you think is smart, intelligent and educated with the rest in place…you realize he’s not the right height! Ouch!
It’s easy for the family to sit outside the maze and urge you on saying your not trying enough. But what when the maze starts to swallow you? The longer you take to get out the faster its closes on you…
I have gone through days in the past when I asked myself ‘Why me?’ That was when I was so self-obsessed with the concern for myself that I didn’t notice others around me.
But now when I have opened my eyes, I see every other friend of mine is going through the same phase.
So is it still a case of being ‘too demanding’ and ‘uncompromising’ or just that there really aren’t any great guys out there….
How do I explain to them that I’m not against getting married…its just that I cant bring myself to getting married to just about anyone?!
I have given this a genuine attempt. And every time it doesn’t go well, my parents remind me again that ‘you have to compromise’
Yes…I know I have to. But how much? That’s the question that I still haven’t found an answer to.
I have considered guys who have been not so good looking and so unimpressive yet only coz they score well on the rest of the check-list. I have even met guys who have been slacking in terms of educational background. Then there have been some that have literally made me think is this a plot to establish silence in my life since I wouldn’t have much to talk to this guy if I married him.
And when you finally come across a guy who you think is smart, intelligent and educated with the rest in place…you realize he’s not the right height! Ouch!
It’s easy for the family to sit outside the maze and urge you on saying your not trying enough. But what when the maze starts to swallow you? The longer you take to get out the faster its closes on you…
I have gone through days in the past when I asked myself ‘Why me?’ That was when I was so self-obsessed with the concern for myself that I didn’t notice others around me.
But now when I have opened my eyes, I see every other friend of mine is going through the same phase.
So is it still a case of being ‘too demanding’ and ‘uncompromising’ or just that there really aren’t any great guys out there….
posted by Ajanta @ 3:57 PM
9 comments
9 Comments:
At 9:59 AM,
rt said…
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At 10:01 AM,
rt said…
its not a case of being 'too demanding' as it is of lacking any suitable suitors! and definitely not the case of uncompromising...if anything, a sincere effort is made which often goes unappreciated. but thats how it goes...! but the concept of PC is still out there..so lets not loose any hope here!!!
At 6:21 PM,
Ajanta said…
The comfort of PC is jus as virtual as the possibility of meeting Mr Right.
Oh for the number of times I have had random men messaging to ask for 'friendship'!
Is it still a wonder why the question still looms 'When are you getting married?'
I recently caught up with tons of old friends on orkut and the first thing they as is are you married or still single. It does nothing to help when you hear they have children already....
At 3:13 PM,
rt said…
yes...many on their second round of baby (or baba) makin...but u know very well that some are with their neighbours and friends too..hangin out n chillin..dont know how that works tho!
At 7:39 PM,
Ajanta said…
Lol...i know wat u talkin bout girl....i guess for some marrige really helps in socializing better - helps u get to know ur neighbours better so that u hang out with em instead of the father of ur child...or maybe he is the father of the child...hahaha...we r wicked arnt we?!
In any case air pollination is not really ruled out yet...wat say?
At 1:42 PM,
Anonymous said…
hilarious.....
At 1:45 PM,
CrazyRDX said…
There are some great guys out there...I guess the good ones are all taken though...hahaha
At 12:27 AM,
Unknown said…
hehehe
I never knew you had a blog too.. Orkut bought me here ..hehehe
I cannot agree less than RT and whatever he/she says makes a lotta sense
"its not a case of being 'too demanding' as it is of lacking any suitable suitors! and definitely not the case of uncompromising...if anything, a sincere effort is made which often goes unappreciated. but thats how it goes...! but the concept of PC is still out there..so lets not loose any hope here!!!"
Cheers!
Sunil Thacker
P.S: I notice you haven't updated this for some time. Listen, I've lost my phone instrument and all numbers stored. Please do call me at yr convenience.
At 12:45 PM,
s101 said…
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